So growing up I think part of my job was to be invisible. Don’t cause any problems for anybody at any time. You see I am the youngest of 4 children and there is a 7 year gap between me and my next oldest sibling. My father was an abusive alcoholic that my beautiful mother married when she was just 18. He was killed in another man’s act of self defense when I was 9 years old. I don’t think I was able to come alive until after that happened.